Self-Empowerment through Setting Boundaries

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Kindness is not a sign of weakness. Whether it is a personal or professional relationship, respect and communication should be the forefront of your intentions. In moments of friction, I tend to react--call it a side-effect of being a passionate individual. But as the fumes from my ears begin to subside, I'm learning how important it is to have compassion, and make efforts to understand the person on the other side.

The way we act in complex situations will ultimately determine the outcome of the relationship. Don't say something you'll regret tomorrow.  Empower yourself by speaking up for what you want. Know what your limits are, and take the time to gain some clarity so that said limits can be discussed in a calm, non-combative manner. Be easy. Be easy to work with, so that this client will come back and work with you again. People will respect you more when you stand up for yourself, and even more so when you can communicate your frustrations without verbally attacking them. We make the mistake of assuming we are right and people should understand our opinion, but it's obvious that not everyone shares the same mindset. Take a moment to shed some light, use your words gently to create an outcome that is ideal for you. Create the life you want to live. Difficult situations are what molds an individual. In times of tension, I hope these words can guide you to be diplomatic and triumphant!

Trousers: Uniqlo (similar)

Boots: Public Desire

Hat: Forever 21

Top: Groceries Apparel (organic/recycled materials sourced and made in Los Angeles!)

Photos by: Shane Menez

Uniqlo wide leg cropped trousers forever 21 cabby hat newsboy hat rebecca minkoff julian backpack groceries apparel top public desire janine over the knee boots maiden lane victoria ly victorialamode
Uniqlo wide leg cropped trousers forever 21 cabby hat newsboy hat rebecca minkoff julian backpack groceries apparel top public desire janine over the knee boots maiden lane victoria ly victorialamode
Uniqlo wide leg cropped trousers forever 21 cabby hat newsboy hat rebecca minkoff julian backpack groceries apparel top public desire janine over the knee boots maiden lane victoria ly victorialamode
Uniqlo wide leg cropped trousers forever 21 cabby hat newsboy hat rebecca minkoff julian backpack groceries apparel top public desire janine over the knee boots maiden lane victoria ly victorialamode
Uniqlo wide leg cropped trousers forever 21 cabby hat newsboy hat rebecca minkoff julian backpack groceries apparel top public desire janine over the knee boots maiden lane victoria ly victorialamode
Uniqlo wide leg cropped trousers forever 21 cabby hat newsboy hat rebecca minkoff julian backpack groceries apparel top public desire janine over the knee boots maiden lane victoria ly victorialamode
Uniqlo wide leg cropped trousers forever 21 cabby hat newsboy hat rebecca minkoff julian backpack groceries apparel top public desire janine over the knee boots maiden lane victoria ly victorialamode
Uniqlo wide leg cropped trousers forever 21 cabby hat newsboy hat rebecca minkoff julian backpack groceries apparel top public desire janine over the knee boots maiden lane victoria ly victorialamode
Uniqlo wide leg cropped trousers forever 21 cabby hat newsboy hat rebecca minkoff julian backpack groceries apparel top public desire janine over the knee boots maiden lane victoria ly victorialamode

xo, victoria

Witching Hour

     Brb. Currently making voodoo dolls and mixing love potions in this witching look I styled for Forever 21. Can you say "Coachella?" I love the leeway of a monochromatic look, like the ability to pile on different textures and accessories--while looking muted overall. Here, I'm complementing a dainty lace robe with raw denim cut-offs, an embellished rocker belt and moto-slash-Victorian style boots by Vera Wang. You know, blending a few different looks to result in a fun and flirty ensemble. This robe would definitely look sexy with some skivvies, except for me--I live with 3 dudes, so there goes that idea. 

Shop this look

xo, victoria

Public Desire

Alright, fashion bunnies, my secret is out! Curious to know my cheat sheet for effortless style? Black thigh-high boots from Public Desire.

When you're in a crunch to make it out the door, throw on some black thigh-highs, and clothing choices can pretty much rest at ease. These boots pack enough statement that they become the standout piece in any outfit. Pull them over skinny jeans (though baggy jeans work, too!) or my current favorite look: with a shift dress or anything tunic-length (think streetwear). If you've been following my blog, you would notice that I've been wearing these day in and day out since summer and into the fall. 

Ladies, when you need an extra dose of sass, this is where you find it. And fellas, if you don't know what to get your lady friend for Christmas, I can assure she would be thrilled with these.

Boots: "Janine" by Public Desire - Use code: HELLYEAH to take 30% everything, including sale

xo, victoria

Ninja Assassin

I was perusing through new arrivals on Forever 21 when saw this sweater, and stopped in my tracks. When I see a unique piece, my eyes lock. And for that fleeting moment, I'm in the zone. My mind quickly scans through styling ideas, then onto suitable occasions to wear it. A hoodie, oversized, with shoulder cut-outs? Dead.

Tunic-lengths call for thigh high boots to close the disparity between too-much-skin and too-much-fabric. I was feeling extra sassy, so I smeared on a dark lip. The same dark lip worn on the runway during the DKNY show last season. And now this look is reminiscent of Rihanna during the Diamonds World Tour aka the "Unapologetic" Riri. Ironically, the hoodie resembles a killer look styled by Rihanna's former rival, Karrueche (I posted photos below for reference).

My friend saw this photo of me on Forever 21's website, and I had no idea! Shout out to people who support and respect your hustle. @am1028, I'm looking at you!

Hoodie: Forever 21 "Open-Shoulder Hoodie"

Boots: Public Desire "Janine"

Lips: "Blood 2" by Pat McGrath

Captured by my awesome friend: Jared Veloria

xo, victoria